I submit to the world a common-sense system to help reduce inflated female self-valuation (delusions) caused by technologically-mediated overexposure to validation. Q: What? A: OK, let me explain... Technology has enabled countless millions of desperate and morally bankrupt men to constantly shower mediocre women (there's nothing wrong with being mediocre -- most of us are) with attention. Naturally, women assume that this attention is higher-quality than it actually is, because "why wouldn't people like me?" It's an understandable mistake. We all want to believe we are "worth it." Simply put, a huge wave of sleazy, short-term, hookup-level interest from men is being mistaken -- by the women who receive it -- as akin to marriage proposals, and they are subsequently developing deeply emotionally- and ego-rooted beliefs that they are all 9s, which is mathematically impossible. They then proceed to reject men who are far more likely to treat them well and pursue men who see them as nothing but cheap conquests, resulting in avoidable emotional damage, which they then take out on men in an intensifying cycle of resentment. I must stand against this, and all I have is a voice. The only power that a man has to stop this cycle is to stop playing the game of letting women think he wants to be with them for real, when he knows he doesn't. Shame on you. Stop that. The only power that a woman has to stop this cycle is by being realistic about her actual value and finding men who are most likely to give her the maximum return for what she offers. Stop letting yourself believe that users love you. That's a delusion. These diagrams are only roughly based on non-scientific data, but they are heavily rooted in real-life experience that proves itself true again and again. I am confident that if women use them to identify the correct men and get to know them, they will have better luck starting relationships that last, and that will cause much less drama, heartbreak, confusion, and wasted time. Also, my content does and always will contain humor to clarify and intensify the points that I'm making. Try to not take my content as being in competition with formal science, but rather as evidence-and-experience-based advice to avoid common dating problems. I tripped over a lot of rocks so you don't have to. Best luck out there.

Average girl talks about average guys like they're goblins who are blessed to have any attention at all

BUY A 'ZONES' PRINT: hoemath.redbubble.com "Zones" is a brief outline of what men and women value in each other. Named after the "friend zone," I have expanded "box theory" (and made a few corrections) in order to divide relationship types into "zones." Both men and women can use "Zones" as a handy guide to understand why their relationships are functioning the way they are, and to make better choices. For women: If you're not his "keeper," and you can't improve on what he wants from you, he just isn't that into you. Move on, or stay sidelined. For men: If you're stuck in the "friend zone," you need to learn to be a man. It's not just looks, but fitness, success, power, and personality that make women excited. It's up to you to create that for yourself, or you can't complain. Both men and women can use the "Zones" map as a quick and easy way to figure out why their relationships work the way they do, find out how to improve them, and either make these improvements happen, or move on if they can't.

In this TikTok video too good not to post on YouTube, I help a news lady figure out why she has to "date down."

In this short video too long for YouTube Shorts, but too good to leave on TikTok, I tell a story about how cool and great I am to point out something you should look for in a partner.

In this 4-part short series, I demonstrate and explain what all these women are JOKING about when they say they are attracted to criminals. "ITS JUST A JOOOOOOOOKE"

This commentary on a bit of male-female relations from overseas paints a dark picture for the future.

https://linktr.ee/hoemath "How Attractive" is the shortest possible answer I can give to the question: "how do I know how attractive I am?" This is the most common question I've been getting. In order to find out, you will need to develop the social skills of: 1. knowing what other people think about you in particular, and 2. how people think about attractiveness in general. This diagram and video should be used along with "Zones" and "The Standard Female Delusion Chart" for maximum understanding.

A visibly upset young woman tells us about being hit on

This young woman's choices exemplify a certain pattern that is destroying the world.

Young women often use black magic word tricks to make you think that reality isn't what you're looking at right in front of your eyes. When you're all grown up, you know that what you see is real and what people say isn't (necessarily).

A young man tells a story of a time that he got passed up for another guy, and he entirely missed the point as to why that might have been.

Grab Atlas VPN for just $1.70/mo + 6 months extra before the BLACK FRIDAY deal expires: https://get.atlasvpn.com/hoemath 👈👈👈👈 LINK HERE "TIME ARMY" is now a community! Go to "LEVELCHECK" or "SELF-MAX" in my linktree and JOIN THE DISCORD! https://linktr.ee/hoe_math This video explains the diagram I made, what it's for, how it works, and how to read it, as well as each level, how it works, and how to see it in yourself in the world. It's my personal interpretation of a model of consciousness that I studied, but it's re-written to make it more understandable to a big audience. DIAGRAM HERE: (bottom link) https://linktr.ee/hoemath I use this diagram to show how people think and where some of the crazy thoughts in our society come from. It's having a big effect! Lots of people are figuring things out, and that's satisfying to me, especially when someone who's been spending a lot of time at level 6 realizes "oh NO! I've been letting people at level 3 get away with a LOT!" I hope you enjoy the explanation and the little bits of gentle humor peppered throughout. More relationship content coming soon!

This girl has a really bold habit that she told everyone about on the internet. I'm sure that not a few young impressionable women thought this would be a good idea for themselves, too.

There is a dark aspect to sexuality that men - especially domesticated, oversocialized Western men - tend to remain ignorant of forever. Women, on the other hand, are never ignorant of it because it rules and guides attraction for a large percentage of them, and the rest of them have friends who exemplify it. Jordan Peterson says "you have to be a monster" but then also control it. I am a monster. I have controlled it so far... that is, until it's time not to. Do you know when it's time?

This is my quick upgrade of a dating chart that these lovely young ladies made for kicks. I think they're kinda telling on themselves with their evaluations here. LOVE PLUS FUN = MARRY.

This was a commercial for a book. I like selling things I believe are good for you. I will do that again. This also was a good video for just understanding what shadow work is and how to grow up the levels. YOU CANNOT BUY THE BOOK FROM HERE DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT I MADE OUT LIKE A BANDIT

We call a lot of things "toxic" when they're actually just evolved psychological traits. It may not be pretty, but the way we're built can't be "poison" or else we're just labeling ourselves unnecessarily.

A lot of men don't get it that having a woman makes you sexier.

Attachment styles are a popular topic lately. It's an important thing to know about yourself and others. And I'm not saying this girl is wrong, I'm just saying that all these people can't be avoidant... maybe it's the app-fueled dopamine cycles.

I figured out "the ick" so that we can all shut up about it forever.

All these jokey jokesters are just out there saying things that have zero attachment to their lived experiences haha jk the joke is that they're not supposed to admit how they're feeling

Some women have been asking why men are checking out of the dating market. I got a lot of attention over the years, but a real, healthy, lasting, meaningful relationship never formed. I have my own ideas about why that is (two things that are my fault but can't fix and a whole lot of things that are embedded in society), but this is just my experience of how it all went down.

Why do women sometimes hate it when you're possessive, but sometimes love it?

This video was a great example of "thinking about thinking" done in therapy. That's what therapy is for.

Don't let people confuse you into accepting behavior that doesn't make any sense. This poor guy got rejected TWICE for marriage, was given no explanation, and was pressured by everyone around him to continue the relationship. Don't you think she'd marry the guy if she really wanted to? WHY WOULD SHE NOT WANT TO?

GET A LOAD OF THIS GUY. Maybe he meant well and maybe he was just trying to show off for his friends, but man do I ever find it irritating when people respond to telling the basic truth with tirades about how "just because what you said is overwhelmingly true doesn't mean there's not an exception somewhere behind Mars or something and therefore you can never speak again"

There is a really common relationship structure called a "situationship" that usually comes from a woman thinking that if she makes herself available to a man, he'll develop feelings later. In my estimation, it's a bad bet. Ow, my heart!

I re-edited this recap with pixelation for Macken's SENSITIVITY. I think the argument went pretty well and I'll learn how to structure it better or next time.

I offered a guy some advice, and I think it's working.

I heard this advice when I was young and it wasn't helpful.

They're not gonna change when you buy them a ring

The Ick is getting complicated!

Just a reminder not to pollute the dating pool (you have to be in it)

This kind lady took the time out of her day to warn us about the Double Alpha.

Someone smart asked me a good question. Relationships do happen without the variables on Zones being primary reasons for the relationship. Zones just isn't about those kinds of love. It's about the fun kind that sells views.,

Our attitudes are causing irreconcilable pressures on others.

A comments section full of women describes what touching nice boys feels like

The "bird test" is a way of checking to see how much someone cares to be in touch with you. It predicts the strength of long-term relationships and it can also show you who wants to talk to you and who to leave alone.

A huge percentage of our problems could be solved by thinking 3 months in advance.

I'm trying to change the way we think about "good" guys and "bad" boys. There's good and evil, and there's strong and weak. Most "bad boys" are strong jerks and most "good guys" are nice wimps. You can be both strong and good, and if you're not trying to do that, you're kind of a piece of s***

Men rarely think about what it's like to be a desirable woman. They're constantly drowning in unwanted attention, and the men on their level have access to women and can cheat all they want. It may be an easier life than yours in some ways, but not all.

This gentleman gives an introduction to simping and I elaborate

I got a lot of requests about money this week.

This not-as-young-anymore lady wonders why men pursue her less as she spends her time and life on her career instead of spending on things that men like. The answer is that your career doesn't benefit me and it makes you more expensive.

This woman tells us about her experience of men's willingness to spend money on women. She's correct except that she views money as the only sort of "investment" because that's what she values. It's true... men will invest less in women they don't really value. But investment takes many forms. Try to find someone who wants what you have to offer.

Someone in my comments told me that the laws that distribute money from men to women are there to "level the playing field." They're not. They're there to entitle women to a comfortable living at men's expense so that women are free to be pickier about who they have children with (and they're not choosing doctors and lawyers, they're choosing bad boys with neck tattoos).

Hot women are often seen with ugly men. Why don't you see so many hot men with ugly women? (because we do that in secret)

girls like guys who are BUSY

Yes, I get it that men are usually trying to get the women that they're "friends" with. But there IS such a thing as just being friends, and when we DO get a gf, she does not recognize this.

We live in strange times because we're mentally strange. It's complicated as to why. I was moving this week so I couldn't use my regular equipment. People have told me that The Jungle by Sinclair was a LIE. That would be interesting.

I will eventually get all these up for download and sale (print on-demand). I NEED AN ASSISTANT.

This young women thinks that something should be more popular and I don't think that

It's common to experience "when I like them they don't like me and when they like me I don't like them." People have begun to give a lot of reasons for this, including "avoidant attachment," but I disagree. Attachment styles don't begin to take effect that early on. I think women are just built to chase men they can't get, and when they can get him, he's not exciting anymore.

This young woman is just starting life, and she's spending her time on tik tok making "JOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOKES" about falling in love with murderers. It's not possible to argue that culture is OK.

Idioms are things that sound true because we say them a lot. You don't "get what you pay for" when you're paying for a woman.

Men often talk about women being "crazy." That can mean a lot of things, but often, it's just her behavior that comes from her anxiety about losing your investment to other women. When women start acting "crazy" and accusing you of all manner of debauchery, it can sometimes mean that she's become attached to you and doesn't want to lose you, so she wants to know where you are all the time. It can also mean other things, like she cheated and she's projecting. In any case, this is pretty normal behavior, and as long as it doesn't cause problems, you should understand that it's based on not wanting to lose your attention to a shiny new woman.

The effect of unconstrained technology upon the collective psyche is worse than most people realize. The phones are too easy to use, and the content they deliver is too stimulating. In the 80s, all of our grandparents used to say "TV rots your brain," and we would laugh and call them old. In 2003, I quit TV and never went back. I absolutely promise you, TV rots your brain. I remained without a smartphone until 2012, when I moved to a major city. I then avoided becoming addicted to it until COVID, when there was nothing to do for 2 years. I promise... the smartphone rots your brain. Our expectations of real life are being altered by images that are not real life. Everyone is a zombie. Things are bad.

A lot of women have a taste for ill-behaved men. There's a lot of argument about why. I'm pretty sure that being "untamed" and willing to do what you want without regard for the rules is an attractive thing to women.

I'm working on production every day. New changes, new problems. The fella in the video is of course Macken Murphy who I usually agree with except when we disagree for 3 hours straight. I hope I can use his face like that.

Just another perfect example of young minds being destroyed by normalizing celebrity expectations. (mad libs was a silly paperback book word game from the 1840s)

Sometimes I have to answer questions with really vague, directional skill improvement suggestions. LEVEL UP YOUR ABILITY TO LISTEN TO YOUR BODY. It makes you understand women better.

I got a request from this chap/bloke and I felt like doing it.

I bet I made you excited when you read "self-maximize." I bet you're STARVING for it aren't you? SAY YOU'RE STARVING. Just kidding, I love you. I am working on Self-Max every day but it turns out that it's a summary of my entire life coaching practice which makes it super hard. I'm gonna be making other videos while I work on it, bc it needs to be good. Hang on, it's coming. It ends abruptly bc I'm not doing coaching rn-- every day is full! SOON

I saw this ad for a dating app and I thought it was thoroughly disgusting. Here's why they're bad.

This girl seems pretty cool, but she fell for a trap that gets a lot of us. It got me for a while, too. That trap is the notion that you are entitled to have other people like you for who and what you are. It sounds like this: "You can do anything you want! Express yourself how you want to! If people don't like it, that's their problem!" And that's all well and good until you make a choice that changes how people perceive you in a way you didn't want. Her tattoos and gym body make men shy to take her seriously (she thinks (and so do I, I think most men perceive tats and muscles like that on women)) It's easier to be what people like than it is to make them like what you are.

There is a very stupid conversation happening regarding who should (or does) bring what "to the table" in a relationship. The answer is that we have no culture anymore and it's up to each pair of partners to communicate and negotiate. I would personally never bother with anyone who wanted princess treatment ugh

People who think that generalizations are bad should not be trusted to think or to vote or be allowed to have a job more important than shift manager at Olive Garden. Generalizations can be false, a little, true, or very true. Whenever I generalize, I am always giving you the generalization that I believe to be "most true." If I'm correct, then anyone who disagrees wants you to have less truth than I do. Rest In Power Kevin Samuels, who flew so I could also fly but different

SheraSeven is smart. She knows a lot about how male-female relations work. But for me, her advice is too cynical. If we all looked out for ourselves first, we wouldn't end up in a world we'd really want to be in.

I explain to a girl why all the girls are prettier than all the guys. (it's because of who's looking)

It's common for people who don't actually know what they're talking about to say that we should live like chimpanzees or bonobos because it would fix toxic masculinity or whatever. What they really mean is: "I want DNA from one man and $$$ from another, and I don't want to be shamed for it"

A LOT of you don't really get it that you have to be doing things that make you look cool. If you just go to work and home again and you're like "WHY DON'T GIRLS LIKE MEEEEE" it's because they don't like you just for existing. You have to do things that make them go "oh wow ok he's cool" go do that

She gives really good advice... if you're already attractive. Get in shape, clean yourself up, and dress like a grownup, and THEN follow her advice with the girls that LIKE you.

A young lady tells us about why she should not have followed her sexual desires above all (they never lead you good places)

Another video about perception versus reality

Many people believe that women change their needs based on hormone cycles. Some tell me it only fits the research weekly. Be your own judge, but also read carefully.

Women get really upset when you tell them they don't know what they want, but then they say what they want, and you do it, and they don't like it. That's not because they're wrong. It's just because there are other things they want first, but they won't tell you about those. "I WANT A NICE GUY!" (who is also tall and rich) "I WANT AMAN WHO EXPRESSES HIS FEELINGS" (in a way that makes me feel safe and supported, not in a way that makes me feel like I'm holding him up) Always listen for the part they're not saying.

Men and women cheat for different reasons. I made this video doing NO research whatsoever, and then Macken DM'd me to say it was pretty much accurate. We're pals now whether he likes it or not

People like these engineering triangle explanations. Maybe I'll make a whole book of them.

A frustrated woman asks men why they become "FFBs..." And I explain the forces behind the market.

Just like in "What a Woman Wants," they name the surface-level things that they say they like, but thy forget to mention the more basic things he has to have first. She says she likes the cube, his finger skills, etc. She really likes his base attractiveness and confidence, and the skills are sugar on top. Remember: Women will usually only tell you about the good guy things they like, never the bad boy ones. GET FIT AND CLEAN YOURSELF UP.

I'm pretty sure this girl watched my content and then reworded it to get publicity, but she did it well so I used it anyway. Great job!

I consider this version of Zones "complete." I rushed on v2 because I needed to get my brand off the ground, which I have now done. SAY YOU LOVE THE BRAND. I have fixed every issue with Zones that anyone has suggested to me that was also a real issue and not a misunderstanding. I have also added strategically significant language to try to most effectively evoke the deeper meaning of what the map is pointing at. Words and images can only point the way to understanding. It's so frustrating - understanding knows itself as such, but those without it often think they have it. The right know they're right, the wrong think they're right, and teaching people to see the difference is what I aspire to. Enjoy, and also buy posters and all that ok bye bye https://linktr.ee/hoe_math

The difference between app addiction / flightiness / flakiness and an avoidant attachment style is whether or not the feeling of emotional attachment started to happen.

She's got a good sense of humor about herself, but not all women do. What do we do when every choice is an ick?

We should all try to treat people properly. There are a lot of people who seem to think this means "taking revenge on people for what similar people did a long time ago." That's not what it means.

Signals mean maybe (and you should find out). No signals mean maybe (and you shouldn't find out).

This was a popular video of a young woman admitting that gender roles pretty much always work the same.

Miriam Nakamoto dumped her boyfriend for daring to receive brain damage. Not being able to suspend her feelings of disgust at her man being injured in his job where he gets aggressively injured as entertainment is a pretty low form of awareness.

There is a right way to be mean. It's about giving her the benefits of your meanness, which should be directed at bad guys and various modern boogeymen.

This human made a thing that's like my thing. I'm not sure anymore if they're copying me or if it's convergent but whatever

Someone asked me who was in the wrong here. Just in case anyone else isn't clear, here's who it is and why.

Here's a little video bout how TV changes what people believe.

WHY DO GIRLS LIKE TOXIC? Because it's not toxic, dummy. When you stay at home and do nice boy things, it's not proving to her that you're strong and exciting. It's not enough to be nice and safe and peaceful. You have to make her feel like you're fighting for her every day - AND WINNING.

My take on this last-week's this-week's-thing is that there are signs you should look for right out of the gate. If you're 38, successful, reasonably attractive, and still looking, the issue probably isn't everyone else.

This guy mentioned me so I added levels to his diagram. She was behaving in a self-oriented way and he was role-oriented.

Someone, somewhere, is telling 3000 women jokes and asking how frisky it makes them SO YOU DON'T HAVE TO.

This attitude is a sign that she's not ready for a relationship (or a job or a driver license or really any part of adulthood)

APOLOGY: I was advised to re-upload with the names removed. THANK YOU FOR YOUR PATIENCE. My channel is now going to collapse into a documentary-style chronology of the Disney-to-eaten-by-cats pipeline for select tiktokkers. Remember: I make these videos not because we should hate these women, but because they're such perfect examples of how not to become a better person when you have an opportunity.